Oh boy, where to begin? First of all I’d like to start by saying gamer girls are no longer considered a myth, and treated like unicorns in the gaming community. There are a lot of female gamers, and the numbers continue to rise over time. However, two incidents the other day, and a short discussion with a fellow female gamer sparked some old feelings again.
There I was playing Modern Warfare 3(kill confirmed to be exact) minding my own business, speaking my mind as usual. I noticed one particular person who was exceptionally loud in the main lobby had toned himself down quite a bit after I spoke. I assumed he either went into party chat, or ran out of obnoxious things to say. Shortly after the match ended, I received a friend request from this person. I go to check the friend request and attached is a voice message. Basically he said something along the lines of, “I’ve never played with a girl before, you’re pretty good”. Okay, wait.. NEVER played with a girl before? Let me check how long this kids been on Xbox live. What? 2006? He’s been a member of Xbox live since 2006 and he’s NEVER played with a girl before? I decided to get to the bottom of it. I sent a reply asking him if he was using a friend’s account, or was given the account and was new to Xbox. A couple of minutes pass and I receive a message back. His response? No, it’s been his account for years. I shrugged it off as being slightly strange, and didn’t put much more thought into it until later.
A little after lunch I decided to play a few games of Gears,(Gears of War 3) While playing, I was talking, doing call-outs and all that good stuff. Out of nowhere, a very loud disturbing male voice says what I hadn’t heard in a while, “I BET YOU’RE FAT HUH? AND UGLY, TOO” , I continued playing and ignored his stupid comments. After the game, while in the quickmatch lobby, he starts up again, “HEY, (offensive word), I asked you a question. She’s not answering because it’s true. She’s an ugly (offensive word)”. I sighed, and left the lobby. No point in trying to convince an idiot that they are indeed an idiot.
Suddenly, I was brought back to the incident earlier. A guy who’d been playing on Xbox live since 2006, having no encounters with a female in his duration as a member. Are these guys living under a rock? Are they completely oblivious? I haven’t had that kind of experience while gaming in quite some time. I don’t consider myself to be any different from the guys I play with on a daily basis. No, I’m not some hideous abomination hiding my horrid face from the world, whose only social interaction is via internet. I simply love video games! There is no explanation why. Sure, having two older brothers may have contributed, but even my mother is a gamer at heart.
Guys like these make my experience as a female gamer somewhat unpleasant. It won’t stop me from gaming, in fact if anything it motivates me that much more to kick everyone’s ass and then rub it in their face with subtle remarks afterwards. However, if you’re one of these guys do the rest of us a favor, please refrain from further continuing your idiotic chauvinist ways and just play the damn game! If you’re that easily distracted by a female while gaming, or if it bothers you that much, maybe you should consider taking up a new hobby. Just a thought.
Now, being that there are so many female gamers out there today, I no longer feel I have to be on the defensive side when playing a game. I feel like I can relax, be myself, and just get my game on. Sure, you still get the occasional random friend requests solely because you’re a girl, but other than that it’s been pretty normal, and that’s just something you become accustom to as a female in the online gaming community. However, there are still a few stereotypes we true gamer girls are trying to knock.
My ultimate pet peeve as a female gamer would definitely be the girls who play video games solely for male attention. These girls are easy to spot out. Usually their gamertag, or username is flaunting the fact they’re female in an almost derogatory way. For example, “MSHOTTIE98″ , “SEXGODDESS”(Yes, I’ve seen it before) Â or something of similar stupidity. This girl is usually the one with virtually no kills, no skill, and she becomes extremely aggressive when another female makes her way into the game. She’s usually got a posse of male followers who, sadly, think she is gods gift to the gaming world. Guys might not be able to spot them out as well as other girls who are there to game, and nothing else. These girls give the rest of us a bad reputation. I’ve had several occasions where I joined a game and a fellow teammate who also happened to be female, would start verbally attacking me for no apparent reason. Let me quote a friend of mine from our short discussion last night; “I’m all for empowering women online, but not the ones that are only there to virtually suck everyone’s *oh, you know*, if you know what I’m saying” . For me, that comment was spot on.
So, ladies, if you fit into that particular category can you please do the rest of us girls a favor, and at least try to change your silly ways for the sake of gaming. Either that or find somewhere else to be a nuisance, because some of us happen to take our game-time seriously.
I’m going to end this article by saying, I am in no way trying to come off as complaining, or say how difficult it is to be a girl in the gaming world. I don’t think that way, but the stereotypes are obviously still alive in some of the guys, and even some of the girls. This was a way for me to vent my thoughts, and maybe weed out some of the attention…. horses. If you catch my drift.
A special thank you goes out to my fellow gamer girl, Ashleigh Nadeau.(pictured below) She’s a PC gamer, who according to her, lives and breathes Battlefield 3. Not only that, but she’s a PR specialist for the International Gaming League. She deserves some positive support from anyone willing to give it to her. Go check out her Facebook fan page by clicking the candy icon below. Don’t forget to like her page before you leave it!
Ashleigh Nadeau, PR Specialist for the International Gaming League
In the end I suppose there will always be those few people who just refuse to believe a girl can hang in the gaming community. For those of you reading who happen to think so, I’d love to know why. For those females who hear me out, and understand where I’m coming from let me know how your gaming experience is from day to day. Anyone else’s opinion on the matter is also welcomed with open ears, and an open mind. Let us know what you think!